This is probably because women place more importance on resources and men on fertility. But because the building of resources takes time, we tend to acquire resources later in life and so are older by the time we have acquired enough wealth and resources to comfortably provide for others. So, women being attuned to status and resources might explain why some women may be attracted to older men.
In contrast, there's evidence to suggest men value attractiveness and vitality more than women because, from an evolutionary standpoint, youth is seen as an indicator of fertility. Given men cannot bear children, evolution suggests they're attuned to younger women to enhance the chances of partnering with someone who can provide children. But the evolutionary explanation is limited in that it doesn't explain why the reverse occurs an older woman-younger man pairing , or why age gaps exist within same-sex couples. With more women now working in higher positions and being paid more, they no longer have such a reliance on men for resources.
So, fewer women will prioritise resources when looking for a mate. As for same-sex couples, there's very little research. Some suggest a lack of , or a reduced pool of, suitable age-similar mates may bring about same-sex coupling with large age differences. Many people assume age-gap couples fare poorly when it comes to relationship outcomes. But some studies find the relationship satisfaction reported by age-gap couples is higher. These couples also seem to report greater trust and commitment and lower jealousy than similar-age couples.
Over three-quarters of couples where younger women are partnered with older men report satisfying romantic relationships. A factor that does impact on the relationship outcomes of age-gap couples is their perceptions of social disapproval. That is, if people in age-gap couples believe their family, friends and wider community disapprove of their union, then relationship commitment decreases and the risk of break-up increases.
These effects appear to apply to heterosexual and same-sex couples. So the negative outcomes for age-gap couples seem to reside not in problems within the couple, but in pressures and judgments from the outside world. It's so boring when people generalise about everyone else. The flip side of your story is that nobody wants you.
Yes, there must be something wrong with everybody else, not you. I don't think the daddy thing is all that rare. I dated a younger guy who definitely felt that way. We worked together so I certainly wasn't giving him money--we made about the same.
Though there weren't that many years difference between us, it sort of bothered me. Maybe because he was sort of immature which made me feel even older. We talked about the age difference once and he said he thought it was hot.
And he went on to say it would be even hotter if I were in my 30s or 40s!!?? I'm 30 years old and have been seeing a 44 year old guy for about 10 months. I have to say that it's been really great. I know there are guys my age who prefer older men, and not necessarily just for money. The problem, though, is that such guys are often shy - practically homebodies - so they're hard to find. In my opinion, what's attractive in a guy in his 40s or older is that he's more likely to have his shit together, personally and professionally.
The guy I've been seeing is financially secure relatively well-off, but certainly not rich. He's led a pretty full life and has experienced a lot, which means he has good stories to tell and helpful advice to give. He also has many equally interesting friends. The fact that he's been to just about every bar and restaurant in the city means he is now perfectly content spending a quiet evening at home, which suits me just fine.
I feel very fortunate because I've found someone who's mature, responsible, dependable, and considerate. I, and others my age who are like me, find those qualities very attractive, and an older man is likelier to possess them. I'm 44, but look 34, thanks to very good genetics and a healthy lifestyle, and I attract mostly guys in their mid 20s looking for someone a little older. When I finally tell them the truth--that I'm old enough to be their father--they don't really care. They see me as a slightly older contemporary, as one of their peers.
So what you are saying you only have ten years left to live beacuse you are so shallow that you think if you look 45 - Its not worth living? You better get a handle on your old age now or you are in for a shock. Wake Up and stop looking at the Mirror! Oh, dear - another eldergay trying to convince themselves they look 10 years younger than they are. If I had a nickel for every time I heard that one I've gotten enough gasps and "no way, bitch! I'm not delusional enough to think I look early-mid 20s, but I can pass for a good 10 years younger.
I've always looked a lot younger than I am. Guys in their 20s and 30s see me as one of their contempories. It's a great thing not to look your age in the gay world, and I'm going to milk my great genetics as long as I can. I have a full time job, and I have my own small business on the side.
I work out days a week to stay in decent shape. On weekends, I do work around the house, laundry, food shopping, errands, gardening, etc. Who has the time or energy to go out? At this point in my life, getting a good night's sleep alone is paramount. This reminds me of my friend Chris. He's 51, smart and mostly friendly, but also out-of-shape and with shaky finances big overspender.
His favorite topic is whining about how lonely he is. I've known him 16 years, and in all that time have not known him to go out on a single date. I can't even say for sure he's ever hooked up or had sex of any kind since I've known him.
Seriously, I am in mid fifties and I spent a weekend with a guy last fall who was Gay age gap dating sites relationship is one built on trust and love. It's not the preference for younger guys or somewhat hypocritical gay age gap dating sites standard that he expects to be attractive to younger guys, although he himself is not attracted to guys in his age range. The top age gap dating younger women are talking about your ideal match. Tennis 'idiots' steal the shine off our women's game Today show reporter Brooke Boney weighs in on Australia Day date debate Gay dance party apologises for 'body shaming' and 'no girls' photo policy Fatal crash driver walks free as judge urges him to 'live the best life you can' Opinion: Write to me in PM, we will talk. Thanks for being so nice to those 2 blind, mute boys, R With more women now working in higher positions and being paid more, they no longer have such a reliance on men for resources. I take it you're not referring to me. She writes advice articles, how-to guides, and studies — all relating to dating, relationships, love, sex, and. Trump slammed after wading into 'yellow vest' debate Millennials v baby boomers battle may be hiding something more sinister Two Chinese tourists among the dead after 'very high speed' smash on notorious WA highway photos Sea water sucked 1 kilometre inland as industry places bores under intense pressure photos Roger the ripped kangaroo dies after 'lovely long life'. For me, older gay men came to symbolize the one thing more inspiring than heartbreak: Here's why China's cotton seeds die 24 hours after sprouting on far side of the Moon Gay dance party apologises for 'body shaming' and 'no girls' photo policy Today show reporter Brooke Boney weighs in on Australia Day date debate Adam's been homeless for a year, he's sleeping in a tent while he looks for a rental he can afford. Several gay flings followed. Jonathan September 1, at 9:
I don't think he's a virgin, but it wouldn't be shocking to find out he is he says he is not. Anyway, this thread reminds me of him because he says he is only attracted to guys in their 20s! That's who he wants a relationship with! Worse, I think he likes year olds who look He's turned down dates, just plain old casual dates, from perfectly reasonable guys who would be age appropriate.
What's age but a number? These 27 queer couples have demonstrated that love doesn't have a limit, and some varying life experiences may. Photos of birth order on age gap dating site for younger lady and wife? Agemingle. Oldermendate. Age gap gay dating sites. One online dating site for local.
Nice guy, and a good friend, but whenever we get to this topic and he falls into his self-pity routine I want to strangle him. It's really unusual for males to like younger partners male or female. You never hear of men dumping someone for a younger version, or of ugly old rich men getting young handome men or women. I'm 60 and as I posted a while ago, my boyfriend is We have a great time together. People keep saying, but what will you do in 15 years when you're 75 and he's I'm with you r46, II have the same kind of genetics and healthy lifestyle that keep me looking at least 10 years younger Don't worry about the jealous haters like r48 just enjoy it like I do.
And yes, I can relate to being considered a slightly older contemporary to younger guys. I used to be very hesitant about revealing my age, because the shocked reactions made me feel a little self-conscious. Now I'm just used to them and laugh them off.
Like you, r56, being young just runs in my family. Sister is 40 and can easily pass for Could care less if anyone else believes me.
No r20, they are just into younger - not older. Unless they are looking for a wallet, they turn their noses up at older men.